Ready for some Tice Talk Thursday? Did you figure out your whys and your whats from last week? This week's chapter, Motives and Motivations, will help solidify your whys even more.
Tice talks about the drive and energy that can help us meet our goals. He shares that this comes from having our motives and intent set in the right place. Places like truth, love and justice, rather than places like selfishness, revenge or bitterness.
This chapter also focuses a lot on values. Tice explains that our values give us our "whys". We need to know what we value most and in what order so that we can put things in perspective. Otherwise, Tice explains, "you tend to value everything about the same--and that means you have a disaster every hour".
Your values are why you work, clean house, spend your time the way you do, treat people the way you do, etc., etc., etc.
Is it God, the paycheck, your family, an obsession, love, to get ahead, to win, etc., etc., etc.?
The task of setting our own values allows us to focus our energy and efforts in areas that are most important. However, it is important to realize that everyone's values are different and we need to respect others or we might just end up violating our own values.
Below is one of the most profound parts of this chapter for me:
"I learned an important lesson: If you don't carefully sort out your values, and find out what is important, then gradually, without even knowing it, you lose what is really important. You lose touch with your core values, the things that are essential to you."
Can I get an AMEN?
Seriously, this sums me up. I go through periods of such clarity in life--full of purpose, intent, driving towards something-- and then there are those mediocre times when I am just going through the motions and struggle to get through the day.
This has always aggravated me--I am frustrated that I waste periods of my life when I am not focused. However, it bothers me more so now-- since there are no "do-overs" when it comes to raising Miss Add. She is watching my every move.
What do I want her to see in me? What values does she see displayed when she sees me with her little eyes? She is like an honest little mirror following me around--everywhere.
"What good does it do to impress a million people if you aren't impressed with you?" Tice asks.
He explains that if you are living your life "consistent with your deepest values" you will be "highly motivated from within" to achieve your goals.
What are you living for right now? Is it in-line with your values?
Dude, I gots some work to do...
Until next Thursday...