Tice Talk Thursday: Positive Self Talk and Self Image

Tice Talk Thursdays is back with Chapter 6: Positive Self-Talk and Self-Image. Yeah, yeah... sounds like a bunch of mumbo jumbo, but the bottom line is watch what you say, someone is listening...

Be it your kid...

your friend...

your mama...

or yourself... especially yourself... you listen to you even when you don't talk out loud. That talk eventually forms what you believe about yourself and then your auto pilot sets itself to what you believe is the truth--not necessarily the truth.

I'm clumsy

I'm creative

I'm crazy

I'm clever

I'm a failure

I'm uber cool...

You get the picture.

Whatever you dwell on, you are going to gravitate towards. So, if you focus on what you want to happen... you are well on your way. 

However, if you keep sayin' gosh I hope I don't gain weight, boy do I look fat or this is going right to my hips... well you are well on your way.

Your words matter. Be it one of those voices in your head or literally out of your mouth, the navigate your life and those around you.

One of the points Tice makes in this chapter regarding how we talk to others really stood out to me. He shared that "when we belittle someone, we ask them to be little" or "when we devalue another person, we ask them to be less than they are". He goes on to share that devaluing is any kind of negative talk about another...be it what they are wearing, what they are doing with their life or what they ate for dinner. Wow.

This reminded me of a verse, like a lot of Tice's stuff:

Ephesians 4:29 (New International Version)

 ²⁹Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.


Now what if someone is throwin' all that negative stuff your way? GOODe news, is that no one can build a belief in you unless you sanction it... kind of like what Mrs. Roosevelt said a while back...

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt

Bottom line is all real change comes from the inside out... garbage in = garbage out. GOODe stuff in = GOODe stuff out...Just sayin'

Really simple in concept... now implementation, that takes some work.